Yes! Marriages Do Survive Infidelity
Be thankful that marriages do in fact survive infidelity. When people get married they take a series of vows. They promise to love and honor one another through the good and the bad of life. They promise to be true to each other and they promise that they will not be faithful to each other. Most people take these vows seriously, but the high divorce rates in the world show that people are not perfect. They are not always able to keep the vows they make. When that happens, infidelity is certain to be near.
One of the most common reasons that people get a divorce is because one or both of the people in a marriage have an illicit affair with another person. In short, infidelity. This is considered unforgivable by some people and they will not want to be with a person who has cheated on them once they learn of the infidelity. While some people will end a marriage immediately if they catch their partner cheating, others will find a way to try to work through their problems to save their marriage. It makes people wonder: can a marriage survive infidelity?
There is no doubt that a relationship will change if one partner cheats on another. The way it will change will depend on many different things, particularly the nature of the infidelity. It will depend on what the person did to cheat on their spouse and what their relationship was like before the cheating was discovered. If it was a one-time thing, or if it was something that had been going on for a long time, people will react differently. Some people have different definitions of what cheating is. People generally know infidelity when they see it.
The situation of the family will also play a role in what a person does when they catch their partner cheating. Many people will find a way to work past the infidelity for the sake of the children, and rightly so. They believe that the family is important enough that they are willing to work to correct any problems they are having. Each individual will react to discovering infidelity differently and that will play a role in whether the marriage can survive.
People go through a variety of emotions when they discover that their partner was unfaithful. They will be angry that their partner has lied and deceived them. They will feel lost wondering what they should do next or even what they did to cause the infidelity! They might feel alone and scared of what the future will hold. All of these emotions can make it difficult for a person to try to save their marriage. Damn that infidelity! If these emotions are dealt with properly, it is possible for the marriage to survive. Infidelity does not always have to end up in a broken relationship.
In order for a marriage to survive infidelity a couple will need to get help to overcome the effects of tragic infidelity. When one spouse cheats on the other, the trust in the relationship is broken. In fact, it’s what infidelity means. People who are unfaithful are usually having trouble communicating and when the trust is gone, the communication will break down even further. A couple must find a way to get the lines of communication reopened so they can rebuild the trust in the relationship.
The help that people get can come in many forms. It can be a trained professional who specializes in helping couples through difficult times such as infidelity or marital unfaithfulness. Some people will turn to religious advisers, while others will find books or reading material they can use to help their relationship. The exact place where a couple gets help does not matter, as long as they do something. The worst thing for a marriage is to try to bury all of their emotions that are a result of infidelity. No matter how deep they are buried, they will eventually resurface and it will be difficult for the marriage to survive when they do.
Getting Help with Infidelity
When a person gets help they will have to solemnly commit to it. Opening up the lines of communication will take time in order to survive acts of infidelity. Once a couple is able to start talking to each other, they will have to take the time to go through all of the emotions that they have experienced. Let’s face it, infidelity is a nasty thing for anyone to go through. There is no easy way to do this and a couple will have to work if they really want to stay together. Once they start to understand the importance of communication and the causes that led to the infidelity, they will be able to start to deal with the issues of trust and all of the other issues that caused a person to be unfaithful in the first place.
The answer to the question of whether a marriage can survive infidelity is both yes and no. A couple can remain married even if one partner cheats on the other. While two people can stay married despite the infidelity, the type of marriage they have will change. If people can make the best out of that change their marriage will not only survive it will get stronger.
Incidentally, infidelity isn’t always just related to a physical relationship. There is also the term emotional infidelity, which we will discuss elsewhere. It’s infidelity without the contact. And of course there is also virtual infidelity, which we will also discuss in another post.
When people are married they often forget the reasons that they fell in love in the first place. They get busy with kids and their careers. Two people who are in love with each other can become strangers and when that happens, people can make mistakes. If they realize that they have made the mistakes and get the help to overcome those mistakes, they will find out that they still love each other. The love may have changed, but it is still there. When they learn how to communicate and trust each other again, it will be like their marriage has been renewed. It will have survived the infidelity.